In recovery, we learn to separate ourselves from our illnesses. We create new identities for ourselves based on who we were before our illness, but sometimes we can’t remember back that far. Or sometimes we’ve changed so much that person no longer feels like who we are. Not a problem! Just consider who you want to be. What do you want your ideal self to look like? You get to create your own narrative.
Have you ever looked around the beach? Do you see people with scars, stretch marks, loose skin, redness, bumps, bruises, and other perceived flaws or imperfections? Do you see people hiding under coverups or t-shirts? Most people are far more concerned about their own perceived flaws to seek out yours.
When you gain or lose weight, you don’t also magically become the person you always wanted to be. It’s just weight. If you’re expecting to feel better about yourself, you’re going to need to work on the way you see yourself, not just the way others see you.
Body scanning is a component of mindful meditation. During a body scan, you focus on your breath and focus your attention on each body part being scanned while visualizing the breath penetrating and relaxing the body part. Compare that to body checking, which often includes trying on various […]
Weight changes are a necessary part of life, but that doesn’t mean they’re ever comfortable. We can tie our entire identities to our body size, and when it changes there’s a huge loss of our former selves. So how on Earth do you begin to see yourself right now, regardless of what you looked like yesterday or what you will look like tomorrow?
It’s a simple fact of life that our weight will not remain exactly the same over the course of our lives. Your birth weight of 6 lbs 9 oz (fun fact: that’s my birth weight) just isn’t going to cut it as you grow into your adult height. However, just because our weight changes at certain times during life, it doesn’t mean the changes are easy to deal with.