There is no rule that says you need to be happy today. However you are feeling is okay. It’s okay if you’re not in the holiday spirit. Take care of yourself today.
Whether your illness is mental or physical, chronic or acute, it took things from you. It may have taken your time, your money, your relationships, or your chance at certain experiences. Allow yourself to grieve all of those losses. Through the grieving process, you will be able to finally move on.
Grief hurts. Whether it’s the loss of a person, the loss of self, the loss of a relationship/a house/a job/an opportunity, etc. it can hit you at any time without warning. It can be years after the loss. Yes, it hurts. Yes, it’s normal. And yes, you will heal.
When I first created this website, I quickly wrote the tagline “Grieve their loss, my friends, and then join me in exploring how to manage when not all foods fit into your life.” I didn’t give it much thought at the time, but I realize now just how much of nutrition counseling deals with grieving different losses. It’s partly about the loss of different food items that can no longer fit into the diet, but on a deeper level it’s about grieving the loss of a former self. This may be the loss of a healthy or sick self. Yes, it’s possible, and so normal, to miss your sick self.
It’s okay to miss people. It’s okay to miss things, places, smells, sounds. It’s okay to feel a sense of loss or longing. It’s okay if you still miss something that hurts or that you know is not good for you. It’s okay and it’s also normal and healthy. We are all affected by ourContinue reading “It is absolutely okay to miss people.”