Just in case no one told you: even when you recover your relationship with your body, you’re not going to love it all the time. You’re not always going to feel good about yourself. Some days you’re going to feel uncomfortable and out of place. You’re going to want out of your body. Your body may not feel like your own on some days. And you’re going to have bad body image days where you feel like everyone is looking at you and judging the way you look.
Diet culture teaches us that we are worthy of love, fun, happiness, and life only when we are at a certain weight. When we are not there, it tells us, we must constantly strive to get to a lower weight. The truth is, your weight does not equal […]
Here’s your reminder to take up as much space as you need or want. Take up space with your physical body, with your voice, and with your thoughts and ideas. The world has plenty of room for you.
In recovery, we learn to separate ourselves from our illnesses. We create new identities for ourselves based on who we were before our illness, but sometimes we can’t remember back that far. Or sometimes we’ve changed so much that person no longer feels like who we are. Not a problem! Just consider who you want to be. What do you want your ideal self to look like? You get to create your own narrative.
Have you ever looked around the beach? Do you see people with scars, stretch marks, loose skin, redness, bumps, bruises, and other perceived flaws or imperfections? Do you see people hiding under coverups or t-shirts? Most people are far more concerned about their own perceived flaws to seek out yours.
When you gain or lose weight, you don’t also magically become the person you always wanted to be. It’s just weight. If you’re expecting to feel better about yourself, you’re going to need to work on the way you see yourself, not just the way others see you.