There is no rule that says you need to be happy today. However you are feeling is okay. It’s okay if you’re not in the holiday spirit. Take care of yourself today.
Have you ever felt like nothing really matters? Like nothing you do will ever make a difference and your life doesn’t mean anything? That everything is completely random and life is cruel and good people don’t get what they deserve?
So whether it’s from the latest terrorist attack, a natural disaster, a depressive episode, or a personal situation, the last thing on your mind is eating. When nothing matters, why should you bother nourishing yourself?
Psychiatric medications, including antidepressants, antianxiety, stimulants, antipsychotics, and mood stabilizers, are just like medications for any other illness. They can be necessary and they can be life-saving. They can also come with some unpleasant side effects. If the side effects are mild and you feel the medication is otherwise benefiting you, let’s talk about how to limit the side effects while ensuring the medication is working optimally.
In recovery, we learn to separate ourselves from our illnesses. We create new identities for ourselves based on who we were before our illness, but sometimes we can’t remember back that far. Or sometimes we’ve changed so much that person no longer feels like who we are. Not a problem! Just consider who you want to be. What do you want your ideal self to look like? You get to create your own narrative.
Have you ever gotten through another long week and been really proud of yourself for surviving, only to hear about someone who landed their dream job right out of school or who got a book deal, or who’s getting married, or who just bought the perfect house… ? There’s always going to be another person with a bigger success than yours at different times. Even if you achieve your ultimate goal- the most successful thing you can think of- someone will have done more than you.
Whether your illness is mental or physical, chronic or acute, it took things from you. It may have taken your time, your money, your relationships, or your chance at certain experiences. Allow yourself to grieve all of those losses. Through the grieving process, you will be able to finally move on.