This is what we call normal eating. It’s eating more some days because the food tastes good, and perhaps eating less other days because you were busy or didn’t have food available. It’s trusting that your body can regulate your weight and you don’t need to work so hard to deny yourself certain pleasures.
Erase the guilt and the shame and just enjoy your food when it tastes good.
I’ve searched the question “How do I eat like a normal person” on Google many times over the years. Other variations: What time do normal people eat lunch? What do normal people eat? How can I stop eating everything? Why can’t I eat like a normal person? Why am I afraid of food? And on and on. So, Past Self, I’m going to answer your questions right here in case anyone else has the same questions and just can’t get a straight answer from their Google searches.
No amount of food will ever fill the gaping void inside of you when it stems from discontent, anger, loneliness, boredom, sadness, frustration, etc. Deal with the feelings. Get your needs met. Food is not the answer to all of life’s problems.
I get asked this question a lot. “How can I stop binge eating?” Bingeing, eating excessive amounts of food in a short amount of time while feeling a loss of control, is scary. It can feel shameful, humiliating, and you may feel completely powerless to stop. The good news is that you can develop a more normalized experience with eating. It is possible. But it is also difficult and it takes time and effort. This article will not cure you of bingeing, but it might provide you with some additional tools to add to your tool kit for conquering binge eating.
First of all, lapses in recovery happen. They happen at 3 days in, or at 300 days in. And each time you’re going to have to make a conscious choice to start over. Here’s 5 ways to move on after a lapse.
We often turn to maladaptive coping behaviors in order to anesthetize painful feelings. That’s where things like drugs, eating disorders, self harm, alcohol, etc. come into play. Feelings can suck, who can blame you for wanting to avoid them? But if you’re ever going to truly live life, you’re going to have to feel. FeelingContinue reading “Healing Requires Feeling”